Get Over Your Fear, Take Action, and Be Your Best at All Times
We all want a better way to handle our fear and to live a fearless lifestyle. We all want better strategies for confronting the people, places and things that challenge our confidence. Better yet, we want to take action when it is called for so we can become fearlessly confident and succeed in the areas of life that matter most.
The intentional action you take today decides the level of fear you have to live with. Fear is not that complex. It just looks that way when you are faced with a fearful situation and you don’t have an effective or immediate solution that works.
We feel afraid when our comfort zone is challenged. We feel afraid when we have a problem and lack the means to deal with it. We have fear when our financial security is at risk. We may become terrified when failure is the necessary step to success.
This is why I have created a simple 5-step solution to living life to the max and becoming great in everything you do.
If you are ready…
Action Step #1: Know your fear
We all have our areas of life where fear is the greatest. It could be at work, at home, social anxiety or personal challenges. You can take a moment to identify with what scares you the most right now. Is there something you are procrastinating on doing? Do you avoid certain situations because you might be rejected? In what situations do you experience fear the most?
By knowing how fear is impacting you in a specific area, this is where you can focus your energy to fight back. Identify the areas in your life where fear is controlling you. Do you fear losing something or someone? Is it the fear of taking on a new role that you might fail at? We can know our fear by understanding what drives it.
Action#2: Let go of past mistakes and future expectations.
Fear exists in two states: the past and the future. We are trapped in past memories of things we failed at. The past has all our dirty little secrets [come on, you have at least one].
The future holds everything we are afraid of happening [and most of it doesn’t happen]. If your mind is stuck in one place or the other, you will create a fearful state for yourself.
Staying in the present, focusing on what you can do today, is the best use of your time and energy. After All, your future is happening right now. The past is the result of how you are choosing to live right now. Both your past and future are the conditions created and being created in the now.
We hold onto our past because we are obsessed with what we could have done differently. Should I have chosen door 2 instead of door 3? Did I make the right decision? I approach this thinking with a simple affirmation: I let go of my regrets. I am grateful for lessons that my past missteps have taught me.
The future is a fearful place full of our expectations. Will I get what I want? Will I fail and lose everything? What if…?
I handle this wildly spinning train of thought with a simple affirmation: I have every quality I need to become hugely successful in all future endeavors.
Action #3: Remind yourself this is going to end someday.
Life is short. We have just enough time to have a few laughs, cry a little, do important work that has an impact, and be the best we can be. This all takes place in about seventy years, give or take.
Every day you spend worrying, you create anxiety that reinforces your fearful state. Remember: you have a limited amount of time here. For some, they have less than others. It will all end someday and the only thing that is going to matter are the people you loved and the experiences you created.
Are you sharing the best of yourself with the people you care most about? Are you helping out somebody without any expectation in return?
When you are gone, you will be remembered for what you gave to the world, and not what you could collect or how much you owned.
Action #4: Spend twenty minutes a day focusing on being in the present moment.
There is nothing more calming than the present moment. This is one big reason why millions of people have taken to activities like meditation and yoga.
Spend time with yourself just sitting, deep thinking, and focusing on your breathing. Your fears will have no space in your mind when you control the direction of your thoughts.
Fearful thoughts and feelings take over when our attention is multi-divided. We can work ourselves into a state of panic and frustration. You could lose sleep or get physically sick. The present moment is the only state of time we have.
Take twenty minutes out of your day to get grounded. You should do this several times a day. Block that time in and make it a ritual.
Block in time everyday for these activities:
- Visualizing succeeding at your goals.
- Listening to music that inspires you to take action
- Observing your thoughts and turning your negative thoughts into positive.
Action #5: Don’t waste your life.
This seems like an obvious statement. But make the most of your time. Watch less TV. Play less video games. Turn off social media for a day.
Spend more time reading, talking to people about topics that make a difference, and take long walks in nature. Build quality activities into your daily routine.
People who walk around filled with fear are trapped in an existence of suffering. You can suffer less by being present and taking positive actions towards making your life amazing.
Do you want to live an amazing life or a fearful one?
Fear is a powerful motivator. It is a signal board that communicates with each of us. Whatever it is you are afraid of, that is an area of your life that needs attention.
If you have a fear of being alone, it is because you desire to be with others but are afraid of the risk of rejection. A fear of money or not having money signals that you have to create a better financial plan for yourself. If you are afraid of getting sick, you could eat better and start exercising. Take action towards whatever worries you have. Worry is not a positive action. It creates stress and negativity.
Look at fear as a companion on your journey. It communicates what you should be looking at. Recognize the fears that are holding you back.
What can you do?
What I did is create a fear journal. I made a list of the things that scared me, and the actions I was avoiding. They ranged from poor financial planning to filling out application forms to communicating with people I didn’t want to talk with. Then, for each week, I’d focus on one of these pain points. By doing something, not only did I remove that fear but, I had built up fearless confidence to deal with it.
Excessive worry, anxiety and all the other dysfunctions that come with it destroy your peace of mind. But taking action and doing something about it is the way of the fearless warrior.
You can leverage fear to become great at anything in your life.
What is holding you back?
What do you fear today that you could take action on right now?
Create a fearless action list and get to work.